Daughter and Dad finally enjoy a private summer together
At first I was in total shock, I felt like I was being hit by an entire freight train without any warning. Brenda my wife of 20 some years sat me down to explain that things just had not seem right to her for a long time, she was leaving and moving in with her lover of almost a year. I know what people mean when they say you are the last to know!
Brenda and I dated all through High School; when we started College we were in love beyond words. When we were juniors we found out we were pregnant; Brenda is the only girl I have ever been intimate with. The good news however is we became parents to the most loving and wonderful daughter in the world, Jennifer.
There are so many things in this world I cannot explain how they come to be. Jennifer and I became very close while Jennifer and her mother just never happened. Brenda really did not want to have our baby at first, but I insisted we bring this new life into the world; together we could do it.
After Brenda gave birth she had a change in heart and understood we made the right decision. But she never really bonded with Jennifer for some reason. Mother daughter conversations never happened, girl times together never happened, the love was there, but a distance existed that I never could figure out.
Whatever it was between them I made up for it without ever thinking about it. Jennifer picked up all of my interests including competitive running, sailing, hiking, and just being active physically and emotionally. I can never hide my feelings nor can Jennifer.
Brenda hated going to the local Yacht Club with the two of us, Jenny is usually the life of the party! She is so incredibly social and able to walk a room with a glowing smile and natural attraction to all those around. I try to keep up with her but Brenda just wants to leave as soon as we drive up!
When it came time to start talking about boys, Jenny came to me. I remember the first conversation, we were driving back from a track meet we both competed in about two hours out of town, and she wanted to know about birth control! I damn near crashed the car! She started giggling at me when I could not find the right words to say. The truth is she was actually more concerned about her athletics and her “Girl” time issues rather than boys.
That being said, I did arrange for her to seek proper medical information on the issue. I faced the same embarrassment every time she wanted to go shopping for under garments. Something about shopping for bras and panties with your Daughter still seems out of my comfort zone, but she preferred shopping with me rather than Brenda. I swear the girl just likes to make me blush!
Jennifer started College last year. Her 19th birthday was just a few weeks ago, and I am sad to say Brenda used that time to share her news with Jennifer. Jenny is such a sweet and beautiful young lady; the news almost crushed her. I wish we could have waited, but Brenda was on a mission at that point. With the news out in the open I also preferred that Brenda move on and away from me.